Why is it bad for a daughter to return to her parents' home to pay respects at the tomb on Qingming?
In rural areas, it is believed that an unmarried daughter returning to her parents' home to pay respects at the tomb is not good for her parents' family, and may bring misfortune.
A married daughter returning to her parents' home to pay respects at the tomb may negatively affect the family's fortune and reputation. First, the daughter may take away the good feng shui of the ancestral graves; second, others might think that the parents' family has no successors. Therefore, overall, the daughter's visit to the tomb can have the greatest impact on the parents' family.
On Qingming Festival, married daughters are only allowed to pay respects at their husband's family's tomb and cannot return to their parents' home to worship ancestors. In some places, elders believe that if a married daughter returns to her parents' home to pay respects on Qingming, she will take away the good luck and cause the parents' family to decline. Therefore, in some areas, married daughters are not allowed to return to their parents' home to pay respects.
"The saying 'No one should go to the grave on Qingming, or it will bring misfortune to the husband's father' is also a folk belief, meaning that returning to the parents' home on Qingming may be harmful to the husband's father. However, this is a superstitious belief, and modern people no longer have such many taboos."
A married daughter returning to her parents' home to pay respects at the tomb may negatively affect the family's fortune and reputation. First, the daughter may take away the good feng shui of the ancestral graves; second, others might think that the parents' family has no successors. Therefore, overall, the daughter's visit to the tomb can have the greatest impact on the parents' family.
On Qingming Festival, married daughters are only allowed to pay respects at their husband's family's tomb and cannot return to their parents' home to worship ancestors. In some places, elders believe that if a married daughter returns to her parents' home to pay respects on Qingming, she will take away the good luck and cause the parents' family to decline. Therefore, in some areas, married daughters are not allowed to return to their parents' home to pay respects.
"The saying 'No one should go to the grave on Qingming, or it will bring misfortune to the husband's father' is also a folk belief, meaning that returning to the parents' home on Qingming may be harmful to the husband's father. However, this is a superstitious belief, and modern people no longer have such many taboos."
What are the taboos for a daughter burning paper offerings for her parents?
Young daughters should not go to the tomb
In any place's customs, young children should not attend the tomb. Generally, children under six years old, regardless of gender, should not participate in tomb-sweeping activities. Because children are too young and have low yang energy, while cemeteries are places with heavy yin energy, which can easily make children see something unclean or attract negative forces around them (children with low yang energy are easily attracted by evil spirits), leading to frequent illness. Therefore, young daughters should not go to the tomb, and this needs attention.
Unmarried daughters can go to the tomb
In some local customs, unmarried daughters can go to the tomb to pay respect to their ancestors. For example, in many parts of Guangdong, unmarried daughters can go to the tomb to pay homage to their ancestors. However, in some areas with strong feudal thoughts, they believe that whether a daughter is married or not does not change her status as an "outsider," so even if a daughter is not married, she is not allowed to worship at her own ancestral graves.
Married daughters cannot go to the tomb
Rural people believe that married daughters should not return to their parents' home to pay respects at the tomb. They can only worship their husband's family's ancestors, not their parents' family's. In traditional beliefs, once a daughter is married, she becomes part of her husband's family. Her parents are still her parents, but her name and household registration have already been transferred to her husband's family. Therefore, a married daughter is part of her husband's family and cannot return to her parents' home to pay respects.
Pregnant women cannot go to the tomb
It is very taboo for pregnant women to go to the tomb in many places. Many people think that pregnant women should not go to the tomb because of their inconvenient movement, but even if a woman is just pregnant and in good health, she should not go to the tomb. Pregnant women need the protection of the fetal god, and it is precisely because of the divine protection that we can smoothly carry a baby. The fetal god is most afraid of going to places with heavy yin energy. Cemeteries are the most yin places, and are unsuitable for pregnant women to visit.
In any place's customs, young children should not attend the tomb. Generally, children under six years old, regardless of gender, should not participate in tomb-sweeping activities. Because children are too young and have low yang energy, while cemeteries are places with heavy yin energy, which can easily make children see something unclean or attract negative forces around them (children with low yang energy are easily attracted by evil spirits), leading to frequent illness. Therefore, young daughters should not go to the tomb, and this needs attention.
Unmarried daughters can go to the tomb
In some local customs, unmarried daughters can go to the tomb to pay respect to their ancestors. For example, in many parts of Guangdong, unmarried daughters can go to the tomb to pay homage to their ancestors. However, in some areas with strong feudal thoughts, they believe that whether a daughter is married or not does not change her status as an "outsider," so even if a daughter is not married, she is not allowed to worship at her own ancestral graves.
Married daughters cannot go to the tomb
Rural people believe that married daughters should not return to their parents' home to pay respects at the tomb. They can only worship their husband's family's ancestors, not their parents' family's. In traditional beliefs, once a daughter is married, she becomes part of her husband's family. Her parents are still her parents, but her name and household registration have already been transferred to her husband's family. Therefore, a married daughter is part of her husband's family and cannot return to her parents' home to pay respects.
Pregnant women cannot go to the tomb
It is very taboo for pregnant women to go to the tomb in many places. Many people think that pregnant women should not go to the tomb because of their inconvenient movement, but even if a woman is just pregnant and in good health, she should not go to the tomb. Pregnant women need the protection of the fetal god, and it is precisely because of the divine protection that we can smoothly carry a baby. The fetal god is most afraid of going to places with heavy yin energy. Cemeteries are the most yin places, and are unsuitable for pregnant women to visit.
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