Wedding daughters returning to their parents' home is a reflection of the filial piety culture in China. However, not every day is suitable for returning to the parents' home. Some days should be avoided when visiting the parents' home! Huayi Network has carefully compiled the detailed information of the fourth month of the lunar calendar in 2019. Want to know the auspicious or inauspicious days and what to avoid? Welcome to Huayi Network to explore it in detail.

Can a married daughter return to her parents' home on the Day of the Beginning of Summer?

Regarding whether a married daughter can return to her parents' home on the Day of the Beginning of Summer, there are no special traditional beliefs about this. However, in some local customs, it is believed that the Day of the Beginning of Summer is not suitable for visiting the parents' home, and even some places consider that no one should visit the parents' home during any seasonal change.
In fact, it's a good thing for a married daughter to return to her parents' home. The elderly often feel lonely without their children around. It's very nice to visit them during festivals or seasonal changes.

Traditional Festivals That Are Not Suitable for Returning to Parents' Home

The first festival is the Spring Festival, which is the first day of the new year. A married daughter must stay at her husband's home during the New Year, even if she doesn't go back to her husband's house, but she cannot spend the New Year at her parents' home. This rule is strictly followed here, and a married daughter must wait until the second day of the first lunar month when her parents come to call her before returning home.
The second festival is the 15th day of the first lunar month, which is the Lantern Festival. On this day, they also cannot return to their parents' home, and must stay at their husband's home.
The third festival is the 2nd day of the second lunar month, known as the Dragon Head Raising Day. On this day, a married daughter cannot return to her parents' home either.
The fourth festival is the Qingming Festival. On this day, a married daughter cannot return to her parents' home, and women are not allowed to go to the graves to pay respects, whether they are at their husband's home or their parents' home.
The fifth festival is the 5th day of the fifth lunar month, the Dragon Boat Festival. Everyone knows that this day is to commemorate Qu Yuan, but on this day, a married daughter still cannot return to her parents' home. Why? Although it is said that "the 5th day of the 5th month is bad for the mother-in-law," meaning that returning to the parents' home on this day is not good for the mother-in-law.
The sixth festival is the 1st day of the sixth lunar month. In our area, we have a tradition of celebrating the half-year. After the 1st day of the sixth lunar month, it means that half of the year has passed, regardless of its size, it is considered a festival, called "half-year." Therefore, the 1st day of the sixth lunar month is also not suitable for returning to the parents' home.
The seventh festival is the 15th day of the seventh lunar month, which is the Ghost Festival. On this day, a married daughter cannot return to her parents' home. No one really knows why, but because she is married, she must follow this rule.
The eighth festival is the Mid-Autumn Festival, which is a major holiday. Naturally, it can only be spent at the husband's home. If a married daughter spends the Mid-Autumn Festival at her parents' home, neighbors will use it as a topic of conversation, so no one dares to take such a risk.
The ninth festival is the Double Ninth Festival on the 9th day of the ninth lunar month, which is also not suitable for returning to the parents' home.
The tenth festival is the Winter Solstice. It is said that returning to the parents' home on this day is bad for the father-in-law. Therefore, on the Winter Solstice, a married daughter must stay at home or preferably go to her husband's home, because returning to the parents' home on this day is not good for the father-in-law, so... those who understand will know that it is not suitable to return home.

Taboos When Returning to Parents' Home

1. Avoid touching the pot and ladle when returning to parents' home
In the folk, we often hear phrases like "touching the ladle won't kill the grandfather, but will kill the grandmother," or "holding the fire column won't kill the grandfather, but will kill the son-in-law."
2. Avoid returning to parents' home on the Kitchen God Festival
In Henan area, since women do not perform the kitchen god rituals, there is also a custom that it is not suitable to return to parents' home on the Kitchen God Festival. Many old customs have gradually been forgotten in modern times, so understanding these old customs of returning to parents' home is enough. Through the eight characters (Ba Zi) fortune-telling, we can see a person's entire life fortune. If there are problems, correct them; if not, improve further, to ensure a smooth and safe new year.
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