Where is the best place to spend the New Year during the first year of marriage? What are the customs and traditions for the first married year?

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Published: 2019/01/29 Author: Durian milk Source: network

China has long had many taboos and cultural customs, especially regarding the traditions and etiquette surrounding a married daughter returning to her parents' home. So, where should a newlywed couple celebrate the Lunar New Year in their first year of marriage? What are the customs and taboos for the first year of marriage? As the New Year brings new changes, if you want to know more about the customs of the Lunar New Year, the exclusive article on 2019 Spring Festival by Huayi Network is worth reading!

Where Should Newlyweds Celebrate the First Year of Marriage?

In the first year of marriage, it is definitely necessary to celebrate the Lunar New Year at the husband's family home. There has been a traditional saying that a married daughter cannot return to her parents' home during the New Year.
It is taboo to return to the parents' home on the first day of the lunar new year (Chinese New Year), the eve of the lunar new year, and the fifteenth day of the first lunar month!
Returning to the parents' home is also called "Guniang" or "returning to one's parents' home." The first day of the lunar new year marks the beginning of the year, and a married daughter is considered "water poured out," becoming part of her husband's family. At the start of the new year, when the whole family is gathered, it is not convenient to return to the parents' home.
Some superstitious beliefs state that the ancestors return from heaven to the earth at the end of the year (some say on the 28th, others on the 29th or 30th of the twelfth lunar month) to enjoy offerings. If the ancestors see "strangers" in the house, they will not enter. Married women are considered strangers, so they cannot stay at home on the eve of the lunar new year or the first day of the lunar new year. After the ancestors have enjoyed the offerings, they return to heaven on the first or second day of the lunar new year, and then the daughter can go back home.
Generally, it is customary to visit the parents' home on the second or third day of the first lunar month. It is said that the first and fifteenth days of the first lunar month are not suitable for returning to the parents' home.
However, with the development of the times and the popularization of education, the social atmosphere today has become much more open, and the taboo of "a married daughter cannot return to her parents' home on the eve of the lunar new year" is no longer as strict as before. In some rural areas, it is still believed that in the first year of marriage, a woman must spend the New Year at her husband's home. Some people believe that if she returns to her parents' home to celebrate the New Year, it may bring poverty to her parents' family, causing bad luck.

What Are the Customs and Taboos in the First Year of Marriage?

1. Pay attention to the date of returning to the parents' home.
Returning to the parents' home is also called "Guniang" or "returning to one's parents' home." A married daughter is like water poured out, and once she is married, she becomes part of her husband's family. At the beginning of the new year, when the whole family is gathered, it is not convenient to return to the parents' home. Usually, it is on the second day of the first lunar month that a married daughter returns to her parents' home, and on the sixteenth day of the first lunar month, to ensure the joy and reunion of both families.
2. A married daughter should not sleep in the same bed as her husband when returning to her parents' home.
3. During the New Year, do not clean the house at the parents' home.
4. When staying at the parents' home or on the fifteenth day of the first lunar month, before lighting the lamp at night, one must return to the husband's home and should not look at the lamp at the parents' home.
5. If a married daughter stays too long at her parents' home, it may be bad for the fortune of her brothers.

6. On the day she leaves for her husband's home, she should not look back. Looking back means that her life in her husband's home will not be smooth, and she will eventually return.
7. When returning to the parents' home, both the newlyweds should wear new clothes, especially the bride, who has specific requirements. For example, she should wear pink clothes, and in some places, she even wears green clothes for the return.
8. When returning to the parents' home, the newlyweds should prepare some gifts to leave a good impression. The specific return gifts depend on the local customs, but it is important to note that they should not be an odd number.
9. According to regional customs, the husband should also prepare return gifts and money for his parents-in-law. The number of return gifts should be even, not odd, symbolizing couples being together and a happy marriage for life. The bride's family should hold a grand return banquet, with the groom sitting in the seat of honor, accompanied by the bride's elders. During the meal, the bride should accompany the groom, serving wine to her parents and relatives to express gratitude for their blessings.
10. Greeting parents and relatives (pay attention to etiquette and speech).
In addition to greeting both sets of parents, many places require greeting relatives, giving gifts, and giving lucky money to children. Elders will give red envelopes to the newlyweds who come to pay their respects. Gifts for both sets of parents can be items that are easy to display, such as clothes, watches, cigarettes, alcohol, tea, jewelry, etc. The most important thing is to choose gifts according to their preferences. When visiting, pay attention to etiquette, speak politely and auspiciously, and the amount of red envelopes and gifts should not be too small! Give enough face to the other party, of course, within your means.

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