In the ancient books of fate, it says: "A woman with Shangguan will harm her children!" "If there is Shangguan in the year pillar, it will harm the father!" "If there is Shangguan in the month pillar, it will harm the brothers!" "If there is Shangguan in the day or hour pillar, it will bring great misfortune." Shangguan seems to have become a terrifying god. Especially for women who have Shangguan, it is hard to express. However, I believe that having Shangguan in one's fate is not entirely unlucky; it needs to be analyzed comprehensively. Shangguan usually becomes an evil factor when it is a natal enemy. But if a woman has strong Shangguan, she should pay attention, because the official star (官星) represents the husband in a woman's destiny. When Shangguan meets the official star, it will harm the husband, leading to adverse marriage and emotional situations. Shangguan is also known as the "exuding talent" element. Women with Shangguan in their charts are usually quick-witted, smart, and love to show off themselves. They are suitable for careers such as public relations, socializing, and acting. However, these personalities may affect their marriage and emotional relationships. Despite this, they tend to become more determined after setbacks. Although they may feel heartbroken after a breakup, they quickly find new love, because those with strong Shangguan have endless emotions. It is impossible for them to forget the world after one setback. To resolve this issue, it is simple: when choosing a boyfriend, it is best to match the eight characters first, mainly based on the use element. However, for those with strong Shangguan, it is difficult, because once they fall in love, they often neglect everything. Women with strong Shangguan can relieve marital disasters by pursuing wealth. Shangguan is a term used in the analysis of the eight characters. In the analysis of the eight characters, the day stem represents oneself, and the five elements that the day stem produces are called "Shi Sha" (食伤). Among them, those with different yin-yang from the day stem are called "Shangguan". People with Shangguan in their eight characters, especially those with strong or close Shangguan, are greatly affected by it. Shangguan represents a clever and talented person, who is eloquent and has a rebellious spirit. For women, however, it is not a good thing, because in the analysis of the eight characters, the official star represents the husband, and Shangguan directly harms the official star. Therefore, women with strong Shangguan are commonly referred to as "clashing husbands" in folk beliefs. From the perspective of marital relationship, Shangguan women are intelligent, but this intelligence always leads them to discover their husband's shortcomings. Shangguan women are talented, so they seem to find many aspects where their husband falls short. Shangguan women are eloquent, so they often mock or even insult their husbands. From the outcome of the marriage, if the husband is strong, there is nothing to say— he will not allow a Shangguan woman to dominate him, and the couple will face each other in conflict, resulting in divorce. If the husband is weak, the Shangguan woman may feel she has married the wrong person. Some may lament their bad luck, while others may seek excitement through infidelity. The husband may become helpless, sickly, or even die.

1. Adjust your mindset and calm down, focusing more on your husband's strengths and less on his weaknesses. Encourage your husband to improve himself. Most importantly, avoid constantly criticizing or scolding your husband.
2. Wear auspicious items that represent wealth in your eight characters. Because when Shangguan meets wealth, it can generate positive energy, and wealth can transform the nature of Shangguan. Additionally, women with strong Shangguan often pursue wealth, which can also help alleviate the effects of Shangguan.
3. Unmarried women are better to choose a man who is older or has been divorced before. Older men usually have greater tolerance, and a divorced man would be your "secondary official" (偏官), and the effect of Shangguan on a secondary official is weaker.
4. Unmarried women are better to marry far away. There is an old saying: "If there is Shangguan, you must marry far away, otherwise you will experience separation." This shows that marrying far away can help alleviate the effects of Shangguan.