How to Use Ba Zi to Assess the Happiness of Marriage:
First, mainly check if the energy fields of the two people are compatible.If the man and woman have complementary Five Elements (Wu Xing) preferences and yin-yang balance, meaning that the other person has the Five Elements you need, their personalities complement each other, and there are more mutual support, harmony, and generation in their four pillars, with fewer conflicts, then it is easier for them to reach consensus and build a solid foundation of affection. For example, if the man's Ba Zi has excessive Wood as an obstacle, and he needs Earth and Metal, while the woman's Ba Zi has excessive Metal as an obstacle and she needs Wood and Fire, then the other person’s obstacle is exactly your favorable element, indicating that their love can last long.
Second, check the level of harmony in the relationship between the two people.
This mainly refers to whether the emotional state in both people's Ba Zi is synchronized, and whether the Moon Pillar (Yin Yuan Gong) and the Day Pillar (Fu Qi Gong) are well matched (including whether they can be tolerant of each other after marriage and the degree of sexual harmony). Generally speaking, a happy Ba Zi matches with another happy Ba Zi, while an unhappy Ba Zi pairs with another unhappy one, which is suitable. On the contrary, if a happy Ba Zi pairs with an unhappy one, it is difficult to succeed, and even if they get together, they may separate midway.
Third, check whether the life patterns and health conditions of both people are synchronized.
It is easier for Ba Zi pairs with similar life patterns to succeed, and those with similar lifespans also tend to match well. Conversely, the compatibility between a wealthy person and a poor person is unlikely to be high, and a long-lived person and a short-lived person cannot grow old together.
Ba Zi Compatibility for Marriage:
1. Evaluate based on the "useful elements" (Xu Shen) in each person's Ba Zi:The favorable elements in both people's running periods should ideally support each other; the Xu Shen of the man and woman should mutually generate each other; one person's obstacle element (Ji Shen) should be the favorable element of the other (benefiting only one party); although the personalities don't need to be the same, they should fit well; one person's Ji Shen should be controlled by the other's Ba Zi (benefiting only one party); the structure of the two people's Ba Zi should not interfere with each other; the lifespan should basically match; the combination of the two people's Ba Zi should not harm the original children star (Guan Sha, Shi Shang) in each other's Ba Zi;
2. Evaluate based on the Six Relatives (Liu Qin):
A man's Ba Zi should not have too many Bing Jian (brothers) or Jie Cai (sisters), otherwise it may indicate a tendency to harm his wife. A woman's Ba Zi should not have too much Shang Guan (officials) or multiple strong elements, otherwise it may indicate a tendency to harm her husband. A man's Ba Zi should not have the Bian Cai (secondary wealth) element exposed, otherwise it indicates lack of loyalty. A woman's Ba Zi should not have mixed officials and killers without the presence of Shi Shang (food and injury) to control them.
3. Evaluate based on the Celestial Harms (Shen Sha) in the Four Pillars:
Too many Hua Dao (Flowers and Love) in the Four Pillars is not desirable; for women, the appearance of Hong Yan (Red Beauty) and Liu Xia (Flowing Mist) is generally considered unfavorable.
4. The day pillars of the man and woman should be compatible,
It is preferable for the day stems to generate each other, and avoid conflict or destruction. The spouse element should be paired with the same type (positive with positive, negative with negative).
5. The compatibility of the zodiac signs:
The zodiac signs of men and women should not form conflict, attack, or harm (except when the man's zodiac element attacks the woman's zodiac). For example, a person with the zodiac of You (Rooster) should not marry someone with the zodiac of Mao (Rabbit), because Mao and You are in conflict.
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