How to Assess the Compatibility of a Man's and a Woman's Ba Zi?
1. First, look at the year stems and the Five Elements:At first contact, it's easy to obtain each other's year information. Then, we can start by looking at their year stems to see if they can get close. At least, there should be no mutual rejection.
The year stem refers to the naiyin of the year pillar. Generally speaking, if the year stems are generating each other, it is auspicious; if they are compatible, it is next best; if they are clashing, it is not ideal, but it also needs to consider whether it is a "forbidden clash" or an "unclashing" one. For example:
Those with the year stem of "Heavenly Fire" are not afraid of "Stream under the Mountain"; those with the year stem of "Big Forest Wood" are not afraid of "Gold Foil Gold" and "Jade Armlet Gold" clashing; those with the year stem of "Big Stream Water" are not afraid of "Sandy Earth" clashing; those with the year stem of "Sea Metal" are not afraid of "Covering Flame Light" clashing; because they cannot clash, it only indicates that the relationship is not very harmonious, or the physical condition is poor.
Those with the year stem of "Mulberry Tree Wood" are most afraid of "Sword Sharp Gold"; "Mountain Top Fire" is most afraid of "Heavenly River Water"; "White Wax Gold" is most afraid of "Furnace Fire"; "Sea Metal" is most afraid of "Thunder Fire"; "Sandy Earth" is most afraid of "Big Forest Wood"; "Spring Water" is most afraid of "Great Post Earth". These clashes require caution, as they may lead to separation or even death.
As long as it is not one of the above clashes, it is relatively safe. However, if the year stems clash, it is better for the man's stem to clash with the woman's stem, which shows that they have a marital connection. If the woman's stem clashes with the man's stem, the marriage is likely to encounter many difficulties, as the marital configuration is inappropriate and does not conform to the natural way of yin-yang union.
After checking the naiyin of the year stems, we then check the positive five elements of the year pillars. From the perspective of the positive five elements, the most auspicious is when they are compatible and generating each other, as this at least indicates that both sides accept each other easily and the family relationship is harmonious; if they are in conflict, it is not good, and disputes may arise in the marriage due to family disharmony. However, not all conflicts are bad; this requires combining the structure of the eight characters to see if these conflicts are what each person's fate needs. Even if they are needed, there may still be conflicts among relatives, leading to family issues. However, the final outcome tends to be beneficial, not just one side being beneficial.
If there are conflicts, collisions, clashing, or harm between the two sides' positive five elements, we need to check whether their year stems are generating each other. Generally speaking, if the year stems generate each other, and the positive five elements have conflicts, it means that the couple often quarrels through life, but the possibility of breaking up in the middle is not high.
2. Next, look at the positive five elements of the hour stem:
Because the hour pillar represents the attitude and stance towards children. The couple's stances should be close and have room for discussion. Therefore, the child palace position of the hour stem should be generating and compatible; the positive five elements of the hour stem should avoid conflicts, collisions, clashing, or harm. If such conflicts occur, it may lead to arguments over children, and in severe cases, affect the body.
Because the hour pillar also represents the late years, mutual conflicts, collisions, clashing, or harm indicate that it is difficult to grow old together. It could be physical problems, or cold feelings in the later years.
Of course, this is just a simple description. It also needs to be combined with the structure of the eight characters to see whether these conflicts, collisions, clashing, or harm are what each person's fate likes or needs. If they are liked or needed, it indicates that although there are disagreements, they can achieve their ideal results through more intense methods. However, this requires professional skills.
3. Then, look at the two five elements of the day pillar:
This is the core content of the man-woman compatibility assessment, so it needs to be carefully examined. The day pillar represents oneself, one's family, and the spouse's situation. The so-called two five elements refer to the naiyin and the positive five elements of the day pillar.
The positive five elements of the day pillar's stems and branches should ideally be compatible and generating, which indicates a more harmonious relationship between the two; if they are in conflict, collision, clashing, or harm, it leads to more conflicts, significant emotional entanglements, and even opposing positions. Conflicts and colliding are the most severe. However, it also depends on the structure of the two people's fate. If it is favorable to collide or clash, it is actually good, indicating a higher level of interaction in the marriage. Although there may be constant quarrels, after communication, it can turn from sorrow to joy. Of course, this situation only occurs when both day stems are the enemy gods, resulting in collisions and clashing. If only one side benefits, it may still not be sufficient.
The compatibility between day pillars is best when it is a proper match, such as a financial or official star. Similarly, the clashing of the day stem should also ideally be a proper clashing, such as a financial or official star. This is the most meaningful, indicating that the man and woman usually have a connection. It is not true that the day stem cannot clash; as long as it is a meaningful clash, it is acceptable.
The generation between day pillars should ideally be meaningful generation. This meaning mainly manifests when the day pillar's stem or branch is the favorite or useful god of the other's fate. If you are strong, and you generate the other, it is meaningful; if you are weak, and the other generates you, it is meaningful; if you are strong and the other generates you, it is meaningless; if you are weak and the other wants you to generate, it is also meaningless.
Additionally, the naiyin of both day pillars should be considered. Like the year stem, if the naiyin of the day pillars generate each other, it is auspicious; if they clash, it is not smooth; if they are compatible, it is next best. If the stems and branches of the day pillars clash or clash, but the naiyin can generate each other, it is considered a rescue and does not need to be overly concerned.
4. Finally, look at the overall situation of the fate:
Mainly consider three issues:
First, the spouses reflected in the man's and woman's eight characters should have a proper star.
For example, a man's character should have a proper wealth, and a woman's should have a proper official star. If there is no proper star, then the secondary stars should be pure and not mixed with both primary and secondary stars. This indicates that the man and woman are more devoted, which is beneficial for emotional issues.
Second, the five elements of the man and woman should complement each other.
If the five elements of the man and woman complement each other, it indicates a solid emotional foundation; in daily life, they can support each other, and it is unlikely that they will separate due to any changes in the other's life. Complementarity is also reflected in the fate's channeling and regulation, which should also be noted.
Third, the two should not harm the other's favorable or useful elements.
The favorable and useful elements in the fate should not be harmed, as harming them affects the other's life level and marital happiness. Especially for the favorable and useful gods in the day and hour pillars, they must not be clashed.
If the above four aspects are grasped well, other issues can be ignored. Because there are few people who are absolutely compatible and suitable. As long as the above taboos are not violated, other issues can be overcome with effort, and one can confidently determine their emotional affiliation.
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