Days with easy spiritual infidelity are usually those with strong food and injury (shang) elements and no restraint, or where the spouse star is merged and transformed. For example, Jia Wu and Yi Si day pillars. Days where a wife is prone to infidelity often have mixed and conflicting wealth stars (for men) and are subject to conflict and union, such as Ren Zi and Gui Hai day pillars. However, it needs to be judged in combination with the overall fate, not absolutely.
What day pillars are prone to spiritual infidelity
Strong food and injury elements, ideas easily go beyond boundariesDay pillars with strong food and injury elements have rich thoughts and are difficult to restrain, like "a series of little dramas in the mind." If there is no official star (spouse star) to control them, they may easily develop feelings for others mentally.
For example, Jia Wu day pillar: Jia wood's food and injury element is Bing fire, and Wu fire is the strong root of Bing fire. The food and injury elements are strong without metal (official star) to control them. When Jia wood is strong, it may become curious about people outside the marriage due to "too much inner drama," like "after watching the flowers in the garden for too long, one always wants to see the ones outside the wall," making the mind easily wander;
Another example is Yi Si day pillar: Yi wood's food and injury element is Ding fire, and Si fire is the place of Ding fire's strength. The food and injury elements are strong and without metal to control them. In relationships, one tends to "follow their feelings," and even a little care from someone else can lead to mental resonance, like "vines that want to wrap around even if the other person is unknown."
The spouse star is merged and transformed, weakening the constraints of marriage
When the spouse star (the official star for women, and the wealth star for men) is merged and transformed, it's like "the reins of marriage are untied," making the mind more open to others.
For example, for a woman with a Wu Xu day pillar, the official star is Gui water. If there is a Wu Gui union in the eight characters, Gui water is merged away, reducing her sense of belonging to marriage, making her prone to rely on others mentally;
For a man with a Geng Zi day pillar, the wealth star is wood. If there is a year of Yin wood (Zi Yin union), the wealth star is merged, leading him to unconsciously project his emotions onto people outside the marriage, like "the key is borrowed by someone else, and the door at home isn't locked anymore."
Such day pillars' spiritual infidelity is usually "mental first," and if the spouse star's strength is enhanced (such as women supplementing metal, and men supplementing wood), it can tighten the restrictions, like "putting a bridle on a wild horse."
What day pillars make a wife prone to infidelity
For men, the wealth star represents the wife. Day pillars where a wife is prone to infidelity are usually those with unstable wealth stars and an unstable marriage palace, like "a cup with cracks leaks water easily."Wealth stars are mixed and conflicted, making the wife distracted
Mixed wealth stars (both regular and irregular wealth stars present) indicate "multiple emotional partners." If they are also in conflict or union, the wife is likely to be attracted by external influences.
For example, Ren Zi day pillar: the wealth star is earth. If the eight characters include both Ji earth (regular wealth) and Wu earth (irregular wealth), and Zi water conflicts with Wu fire (the strong root of the wealth star), the wealth star is scattered, making the wife's feelings unstable, like "a heart pulled by multiple magnets, hard to fix";
Another example is Gui Hai day pillar: the wealth star is earth. Hai water conflicts with Si fire (the source of the wealth star), and the sky has Ji and Gui earth mixed, making the wife vulnerable to external temptations (like being pursued by others), like "a small boat struggling to stay on shore in a rapid current."
The marriage palace (day branch) suffers from conflict or harm, causing instability
The day branch represents the wife's "residence." Conflict or harm makes the "residence unstable," leading the wife to have a wandering heart.
For example, a man with a Ji Mao day pillar, where the day branch is Mao wood, faces a conflict with You gold in a certain year (Mao You conflict), shaking the marriage palace, making the wife emotionally drift away due to arguments or distance;
Another example is a man with a Wu Chen day pillar, where the day branch is Chen earth, facing a conflict with Xiu earth (Chen Xiu conflict), leading to internal contradictions in the marriage palace. The wife feels no warmth, and thus seeks comfort elsewhere, like "if the house is leaking, people naturally look for shelter elsewhere."
However, it should be noted that for men whose wealth stars are strong and favorable, and whose marriage palace is stable, even if their day pillar has the above characteristics, the wife may not necessarily be unfaithful. The key lies in whether "the wealth star has roots and is cherished by the day pillar."
Q: How can one guard against mental infidelity when the day pillar suggests it?
A: Enhance the spouse star's strength (women supplement the official star, men supplement the wealth star). For example, women wearing white clothes (metal element), men wearing green accessories (wood element), like "adding a brake to the mind." Regularly communicate deeply with your partner and focus your attention back on the marriage, like "weeding the garden so that the flowers bloom more beautifully," reducing curiosity about the outside world.
Q: What can a man do to prevent his wife from being unfaithful if the day pillar indicates it?
A: First, stabilize the marriage palace by placing items that match the day branch at home (e.g., if the day branch is water, place a piece of earth). This enhances the stability of the marriage palace. Also, show more care for the wife and meet her emotional needs (the wealth star needs support). Like "repairing the cracks in the cup and filling it with water, so it won't leak," once the relationship is deep, external temptations will naturally be less effective.
